Situationship: More Than A Fling Or Just A Thing?

Situationship. The term might not be new but it garnered attention when actor Ajay Devgn-starrer Singham Again made it a part of a father-son conversation. Bajirao Singham (Ajay’s character) asks his Gen Z son what it means, who then patiently introduces his clueless father to this modern dating term.

And, just like it is for Singham, modern dating can be a complicated to navigate, especially with new dating terms cropping up every other day. So, what is situationship and what to do if you find yourself in one? Let’s find out.

What it means

Situationship is absence of clear labels and definition in a relationship. In a healthy relationship, partners usually have conversations about their expectations, boundaries, future together, etc. However, in a situationship, these conversations either never happen or are avoided entirely. For instance, you might think of asking your partner questions like “What are we”, because you are unsure of the response. This lack of definition can create feelings of uncertainty, as you are left guessing whether the person sees you as a friend, a fling, or something more meaningful.

So, how to identify if you are in a situationship or relationship? The following pointers are worth noting:

Inconsistent communication

In a situationship, conversations are inconsistent. While some days your mobile will be filled with texts or calls, and calendar peppered with dates, there will days marked by silence and unavailability. This can make you feel insecure not knowing when will the other party will connect with you again. Unlike relationships, where partners make efforts to stay connected, check-in regularly, situationships operates on convenience.

Dipal Mehta, a Mumbai-based practising counsellor and psychologist, shares, “A person who is truly involved in someone will find endless number of reasons why they must see each other. Whereas, a person who is just playing around or confused about his/her feelings, will find excuses to not show up.”

Physical intimacy

While physical intimacy is important in relationships, it is the nucleus of a situationship. If your interactions mostly revolve around physical connection without emotional depth, it’s worth questioning whether your bond is genuine or just a convenience. In a healthy relationship, emotional intimacy complements physical intimacy, creating a fulfilling and a deeper connection. If you feel the connection is transformative and transactional, than you might be in a situationship.

No long-term plans

People in committed relationships usually discuss their future plans together whether it’s planning a vacation, attending family events, or simply talking about shared goals. In contrast, situationships tend to lack these long-term plans and commitments. For example, you might find that plans are usually made at the last moment or that discussions about the future are met with unclear responses. This lack of planning can make you feel like you are stuck in a loop, with no clear direction or progression in your connection.

Unequal effort

Healthy relationships are built on mutual effort and investment. Both partners actively contribute to the growth and maintenance of the bond, whether through communication, acts of service, or emotional support. In a situationship, however, the effort is often one-sided. You might notice that you’re only the one initiating conversations, planning for dates or making sacrifices to accommodate the other person. This imbalance can leave you feeling undervalued and unappreciated, as the other person’s actions don’t match their words. Unequal effort is a clear sign that your connection lacks the reciprocity needed for a healthy and committed relationship.

“In the world of situationships, embracing real relationships allows individuals to find stability along with emotional and personal growth. Choosing authentic connections will help valuing emotional needs and investing in future that are rooted with trust and care,” Dipal explains.

While situationships can sometimes be fun and casual, they often lead to confusion and heartache if both parties aren’t on the same page. Recognizing the signs of a situationship is the first step toward to understanding your relationship dynamic and making decisions about your emotional well-being. By prioritising open communication and self-respect, you can navigate these grey areas with clarity and confidence, ensuring that your connections align with your values and long-term goals.

How to navigate a situationship

If you recognize these signs in your current connection, it’s important to take a step back and evaluate your feelings and needs. Here’s what you can do:

  • Express your feelings and concerns honestly.

  • Ask the other person about their intentions and expectations, and be prepared for their response, whether positive or negative.

  • If the uncertainty of a situationship concerns you, establish clear boundaries for your emotional and physical well-being.

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